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Relationship Advice

This page lists all my latest advice columns in the Sex Advice categories.

There are three main categories of advice. Click on any of the following links to see a summary of articles in other categories:

Relationships Dating

If you don't find the answer you're looking for in these advice columns, feel free to Ask Doctor Love your own question!

Nov 30, 1998
Sex Advice
HiI'm a 39 year old man and still love sex. But my wife (38) thinks it's some kind of chore. When we are making love it is great but that is only 1-2 times a month and that is not enough for me. How can I get her more interested in sex, or is it to late?
Nov 16, 1998
Sex Advice
Dear Dr. Love my question is this: Can smoking effect getting a good hard erection? I am a 43 yr old male in fairly good shape except I smoke a pack a day. Can this effect the heart and blood flow. I also get cold feet(in the literal sence) I'm happily married to the same woman for 20 yrs and have always had a good sex life with her. I have a hard time getting a good hard ( normal) erection and this is straining our relationship. Hope you can help
Nov 9, 1998
Sex Advice
Dear Dr. Love, My wife and I have been married for three years, and we dated for two. Before we got married, sex was wonderful. We were like two bunnies. But after we moved in together, things started to change. She began complaining of a painful burning sensation in her vagina whenever we made love. At first, we thought she might be allergic to latex condoms and KY jelly. So we switched to natural non-lubricated condoms. That did not help either. We made love less and less frequently...
Oct 26, 1998
Sex Advice
You may think I'm rather'messed up' with these questions, but here it goes.I am a 31 year old male and have been dating the same woman for over a year now. With very few exceptions, it may take me 30 minutes to an hour of intercourse before I reach an orgasm. And, I'm usually not as hard as my girlfriend believes that I should be. She's convinced that I am thinking to much - not letting go. Once we begin intercourse, I become harder. But, at times, it just goes away. I sometimes think...
Sep 28, 1998
Sex Advice
I really appreciate your site and I hope you can help me with my problem. My husband has recently introduced me to vibrators and hot tub jets. I enjoyed these things, but I feel a real sense of guilt when I orgasm in this manner rather than'with' him. He doesn't have a problem with it, but I sometimes wonder if it isn't just a little too kinky. I also wonder about the safety and whether or not these things can cause problems further on down the road either sexually or physically. I would...
Sep 21, 1998
Sex Advice
Dr. Love, My name is Lisa and my problem is somewhat complex. My boyfriend(9 mths) and I were discussing transvestites and gays. We are on opposites ends of the spectrum when it comes to anything that has to do with this topic. For the record: He believes men and women should be together and thats it. I, however believe that love conquers all and a persons sexuality doesn't matter. I understand, from the nature of his upbringing, how his opinions are formed. So, neither of us is right...
Sep 14, 1998
Sex Advice
I am engaged and been sexual with my fiancee. I found out about a year ago that I had genital warts. I have not told my fiancee yet and don't know if I should in fear that he would leave me. I was considering just going to the doctor with him and acting like I never knew that I had genital warts until then. Would this be wrong of me? Should I tell him? If so how do I go about telling him?PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!
Aug 31, 1998
Sex Advice
Dear Dr. Love, My boyfriend informed me a few weeks ago, after having been together for over a year, that he is gay - not bisexual, but gay. He apparently felt the need to share this information with me, since it has been our policy to disclose everything to one another. Obviously, he has not been entirely truthful toward me this past year. His rationale for this lie was the notion that if he had told me, he would have been deprived of the best year of his life. He still claims to be in love...
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