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Jan 7, 2002
To be honest, this is my first time on your site, it will not be the last. I am a 29 yr old widowed mother of 3, I live in a rather small town bombarded by college kids 10 months of the year. I tried the Internet personal scene (my kids are young and getting out to meet people is difficult). I answered a profile (actually several) you get the usual some don't respond and some do but, nothing is there. I spoke to three on the phone and met 2 in person. The first was a really nice guy with a lot...
Jan 1, 2002
I am engaged to be married. I have been with my fiance for 3 years. Twice while sleeping my fiance has said his ex-wife's name while dreaming. By the other things he was saying it was obvious that this was a sex dream. I felt very hurt by this and concerned that perhaps he has feelings for her still. He has reassured me that he doesnt and says he feels really bad about it but has no recollection of the dreams. Is this somehting I should be concerned about? They have been divorced 5 years. He...
Dec 27, 2001
Dear Dr. Love: I am not the kind of person to write in for advice, but I am feeling overwhelmed and desperate. I hope that your advice can help me make the best decision for all parties involved. I am dating a wonderful man. We have shared a wonderful nine months, and both agree that this is a one of a kind relationship. He is truly the man that I have been looking for. The problem is that he is separated from his wife, and has been for about a year and half. They have a sweet little boy...
Nov 5, 2001
Dear Dr. Love, I hope you pick my question. I don't see any question like this in your archives. I have felt so hurt by my boyfriend. We are an older couple. I don't know why he treated me so uncaringly. We have been together for 5 years. He accidently broke my hand when we were dancing in a club one night. He had a hold of my hand real tight and mine slipped out of his and bent my finger sideways and the bone in my hand snapped like a pencil. We were quite a ways from home. I thought about...
Sep 10, 2001
Dear Dr. Love, My husband 's friend was engaged to a woman and the four of us would go out every weekend together. We all became really close friends. Unfortunately, my husband discovered that his friend was cheating on his fiancÃ©e and both of us were stuck with what to do. My husband finally confronted his friend and asked him if he was still going to go through with the wedding. He said he didn't know. I felt awful because I had grown quite close to both of them. I really like his fiancÃ©e,...
Aug 20, 2001
I've read many of your responses and admire your candor. I'm currently dating someone who appears to be a very loving, sweet, loyal and grounded man. I've met his parents and many (20+) of his friends. . . Whom all share the same opinion: He is a great guy! His most recent relationship (3+years) ended about 2 years ago. He was devastated by the breakup and has expressed his feelings well. And appears to have learned a lot about himself from the relationship. They remain close and have both...
Aug 13, 2001
Help!! I am engaged to someone who has two children (3 and 5). At first they were not an issue, but as time passed I came to realize that he was easily manipulated by his ex wife, and often spineless. In addition, he refuses to reinforce basic respect and consideration principles with his children when they deal with me. Because of their behavior and his, I do not enjoy spending time with them and refuse to be subjected to things that add aggravation to my life. I have expressed my concerns...
Jun 4, 2001
Dear Dr. Love: I am a great fan of your advice, and I need some of your superb wisdom. This is a doozy, so hold on. I met a woman through friends last July. We had both been hurt by less than admirable partners. She had a 4 yearold, the father never married her, was controlling and not loyal to the relationship. She had moved out on her own 8 months before. We hit it off immediately and had a fantastic soul connecting relationship until Nov when her ex started with 'I've got cancer and won't...
May 21, 2001
Dear Dr. love I am a 19 year old girl who feels heartbroken because 3 days ago i told a very close friend of mine Ken that I have feelings for him more than just a friend and now that his ex girlfriend is back from college and they are getting back together it was hard for me to be around them. For the past 2 and half months we have talked everyday and seen each other almost everyday. We have a very special, very close friendship. We talked about everything from religion to children and where...
May 1, 2001
Dr. Love. Thank you for offering this advice column. I've read many over the years, and hope that you can offer a little to me. I'm a 28 year old woman that has just finished her masters degree away from Alaska, my home state. Before starting my studies, I spent the spring/summer living with my brother in a small Alaskan town. I met a friend of his who was 3 or 4 months out of a serious relationship (5 years) that ended abruptly (she cheated, left & and later, came back). He is an attorney...