Aug 13, 2001
Ex Lovers
Help!! I am engaged to someone who has two children (3 and 5). At first they were not an issue, but as time passed I came to realize that he was easily manipulated by his ex wife, and often spineless. In addition, he refuses to reinforce basic respect and consideration principles with his children when they deal with me. Because of their behavior and his, I do not enjoy spending time with them and refuse to be subjected to things that add aggravation to my life. I have expressed my concerns...
Jun 4, 2001
Ex Lovers
Dear Dr. Love: I am a great fan of your advice, and I need some of your superb wisdom. This is a doozy, so hold on. I met a woman through friends last July. We had both been hurt by less than admirable partners. She had a 4 yearold, the father never married her, was controlling and not loyal to the relationship. She had moved out on her own 8 months before. We hit it off immediately and had a fantastic soul connecting relationship until Nov when her ex started with 'I've got cancer and won't...
May 21, 2001
Ex Lovers
Dear Dr. love I am a 19 year old girl who feels heartbroken because 3 days ago i told a very close friend of mine Ken that I have feelings for him more than just a friend and now that his ex girlfriend is back from college and they are getting back together it was hard for me to be around them. For the past 2 and half months we have talked everyday and seen each other almost everyday. We have a very special, very close friendship. We talked about everything from religion to children and where...
May 1, 2001
Ex Lovers
Dr. Love. Thank you for offering this advice column. I've read many over the years, and hope that you can offer a little to me. I'm a 28 year old woman that has just finished her masters degree away from Alaska, my home state. Before starting my studies, I spent the spring/summer living with my brother in a small Alaskan town. I met a friend of his who was 3 or 4 months out of a serious relationship (5 years) that ended abruptly (she cheated, left & and later, came back). He is an attorney...
Oct 30, 2000
Ex Lovers
My 50 year old boyfriend has been living apart from his wife for 5 years, with visits approx. once a month (maybe more) with no sexual contact. We met 6 months ago, and have a great relationship in every way. He agreed to get a divorce since he had been wanting to anyway. He told her about our relationship last month and stated he wanted a divorce. She panicked and has been trying to get him to change his mind. He is standing firm because he doesn't want to lose me. He went down last...
Sep 4, 2000
Ex Lovers
I have been dating, and loving my first girlfriend after almost 25 years. She has been married but was separated then divorced while we were dating.The problem I have is the continuing relationship she has with her ex. . . they are partners inthe same business. So they obviously have contact there. . they also had a son with retardation. She has been delegated the responsible person for the son's care. . the ex was absent from the boys life(she has 4 altogether) growing up, but as they...
Dec 27, 1999
Ex Lovers
I have recently gotten engaged to get married. I am pregnant by this guy as well. I wanted to ask your opinion on something. He got devorced over a year ago and had 2 kids with his ex-wife. He calls the kids every night to tell them good night. (She has custody of them.) But when he calls the kids he will only talk to the kids a few minutes; they are very young. And then he will talk to his ex-wife for about 20 minutes almost everynight. He says that is the only way he can keep in touch...
Dec 20, 1999
Ex Lovers
Dear Dr. Love, I have a question for you. . and I hope somehow you can give me some helpful advice. I live in the Northeast part of the US. . . and have been divorced for 7 years. I raised my beautiful daughter all my myself. . . . and shared custody of her with her mom (who lives only 10 miles away) I've been very lonely. . . . devoting my whole life to my precious daughter. I have no family left. . . my dad died several years ago from cancer and my mom died when I was only 13 months old...
Oct 18, 1999
Ex Lovers
Dear Dr. Love, I'm a college sophomore, 19 years and have been with my current boyfriend for almost a year. Things have been fine up until about a month ago. Up until this point, I had never dated anyone, never kissed, never had strong feelings of affection or love for anyone. So 'Tom' is my first everything (including sex a couple months ago). Tom, however, had a 2-year romance (a sexual one as well) with a girl in high school. I cannot get over this. You'd think after a year, I...
Sep 13, 1999
Ex Lovers
I have not found a similar problem in your archives and hope that you are willing to help me with this problem. Three years ago my husband left me for another woman who is much younger than he is (43/23). After I found out about the affair he moved out. I tried to talk to him and save our marriage, but he was so consumed with her, he had no time for me or our marriage. He was very cruel to me emotionally, when I would call him and tell him to please give our marriage a change, he would...
