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Mar 2, 2014
Here’s my story. I became friends with a guy while travelling and teaching English in Korea. We had everything in common and our personalities were very similar. He was very flirty and always hinted at a fling. But the problem is that I was virgin and he had just come out of a really bad breakup with his ex. He was very depressed and always complaining about her so I think he was looking to me as a temporary distraction. And he's also technically still married! I rejected him at...
Sep 21, 2013
I've been seeing a guy for 3 months now. He lives in another country though, so it's not like we see each other every day. He's here for work regurlarly. I'm 25 and he's 36. I've had commitmentFear of commitment is a common source of conflict for couples. Commitmentphobia is often most strongly apparent in romantic life. Generally, commitmentphobic people claim that they are eager to find...(Click for full definition.) issuesIssues, in the words of the Serenity Prayer, are things you can...
Jun 10, 2013
This girl and I were talking for a couple of weeks. We went on two dates, in a single week, and we had sex the night of the second date (saturday night). She was very into me. At least thats what she told me, and what she told her friends (we have some mutual friends). Anyways three days after we slept together (Tuesday), I slipped up. I bartend, and a girl I dated for a VERY short period of time came in to visit. And I stayed after my shift and talked to this girl to catch up. Well, at the end...
Mar 19, 2013
Hi, my name is Melissa and I have a situation on my hands. . . I just found out two weeks ago that I am pregnant and the man who is the baby's father says he wants to get married. He is promising me the world. . . a new car. . a new life in the air force. . . even a horse if I want one. I love him and he loves me but I do not know if I am ready to get married. However I feel like I have to decide right away because he needs to be married and in the Air Force in order for them to cover medical...
Dec 11, 2012
Dear Dr Love I am 50 yr old female dating a 53 yr old man for a little over a year. He was married for over 25 years and he and his wife divorced (he did not want the divorce). by his account, toward the end the relationship was volitale (he doesn't speak much about it-- but mostly blames himself) Anyhow, he's been divorced for approx. 6 yrs. He's dated several women and had at least one serious girlfriend in that time. He's a good man and does a lot to help...
Dec 2, 2012
My girlfriend and I have been dating for three weeks now. We care for each other and are affectionate, but there is no passion . . . which is very strange since most of my relationships are very steamy (and short). One reason I can suggest is that I really cannot have sex with a condom; the latex coating dulls my sensation to the extent that no matter what kind of condom or lubricant I apply, I just do not respond well in intercourse . . . I stay somewhat erect, but have very little...
Nov 27, 2012
Hi, My issue is that I've never really had a normal sex life because of a deep seeded fear that I will not be able to obtain an erection. It's happened to me on more than one occasion with a new partner. I've read in another one of your advise columns that the hormones produced by fear are incompatable with those of sexual arousal. It makes perfect sense. Every time Im in a situation where sex would be initiated with someone Iam not 100% comfortable with I panic and try to avoid it at all...
Oct 30, 2012
Dr Love, heres my problem . Prior to my marrige my husband had an on again off again relationship with his ex girlfriend. Theyre initial break up was her request and a mutual'lets sleep together on and off because we are familiar to each other 'relationship formed between them. (they had 2 children in the commited portion of their relationship and one during the casual part) My husband has never denied his responsibilites as a father and continued to stay close to his children. Then we met...
Oct 24, 2012
Hey Dr. Love. I have been in a wonderful relationship for about 2 months with a young lady that I find attractive, smart, and funny--all the qualities a man could want. We have done everything a male and female could do with the exception of. . . penis to vagina sex. The problem is everytime my we start to begin the process, I lose my erection. I really like this girl, I'm tempted to say that I love her, but I know that she is just as frustrated as I am about my lack of an erection when it is...
Oct 1, 2012
my boyfriend and I are both 60 yrs old ( he, never married and me, divorced for 24 years), healthy, youngish, and have a great sexual and intellectual chemistry. I was celibate for 7 years before I met him, and this relationship has made me feel like a 20 something in many ways...never thought I'd find love again (him, too). He pursued me like gangbusters and told me he loved me first (after about 2 months), and we see each other about once a week (usually his place), sometimes two...