Mar 25, 2003
Dear Dr. Love, My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years since I was 15. Unfortunately my first sexual experience was forced on me by an older close friend of mine after my 18th birthday. Since then my boyfriend and I have had trouble getting physically close because I was afraid of being hurt again. Because of that he rejected me out of heartbreak and frustration and I started seeing someone at my old work. This second person moved very fast and was very rough and forceful as well...
Dec 16, 2002
it's been over a year since my husband left our family. for some odd reason instead of the angry and hurt feeling that i had in the beginning, i'm feeling overwhelmed with the desire to have him back in my life. i seem to miss him more than ever. am i crazy or what? i have not seen or heard from him in all this time but i know that he's intentionally avoiding us. for what reason i don't know. should i give up on ever hoping for a reunion or should i hold on to what i Feel? help please.
Dec 3, 2002
I have been married to a wonderful man for nearly 6 months now...He is my one and only love. There is nothing that my husband does not fulfill in my life. However, I am sexually attracted to my husband's best-friend ('Tom'). Here's where it gets wierd--my husband has consented to me having an intimate encounter with Tom. He says only that he trusts both of us fully, and that he wants me to 'experience' another man, since I have not (I lost my virginity to my husband about 6 months prior to...
Dec 2, 2002
I have a girlfriend and we have been going out for over a month, i know this isnt really that long but i am so in love with her its crazy. I have never felt this way about anyone before and its driving me mad, i don't know what she is feeling, which is my problem. I feel that she doesn't want me and that im just there. She says she loves me alot and we spend time together, but i feel she still doesn't want to be with me. Just recently she has been spending a lot of time with her friends and...
Aug 5, 2002
Dr. Love, It's unusual for me to seek out advice using this medium. . . but my friends and family must be sick of my current obsession. . . including my own therapist mother! Well. . . here goes. . . I grew up in an environment deprived of real intimacy. . . little expression of love, caring, or selflessness. . . my role was to provide these things to my family. . . but it was hard when nobody really showed me how. . . regardless of this, I managed to keep on hoping for more. . . thanks a...
Aug 20, 2001
I've read many of your responses and admire your candor. I'm currently dating someone who appears to be a very loving, sweet, loyal and grounded man. I've met his parents and many (20+) of his friends. . . Whom all share the same opinion: He is a great guy! His most recent relationship (3+years) ended about 2 years ago. He was devastated by the breakup and has expressed his feelings well. And appears to have learned a lot about himself from the relationship. They remain close and have both...
Apr 16, 2001
Dr. Love, My husband and I have been married for almost 5 years. I absolutely adore him. I thought everything was fine in our marriage until he told me 2 and a half weeks ago that he was not happy. During that conversation, he told me that he thought we had something worth saving and he wanted to try. He also said that he felt like we needed to go to counseling. His major complaint was that we don't make love often enough. (Typically only once or twice a month). I'm 23 and he's 29, so I realize...
Jan 29, 2001
Dear Dr. Turndorf, have a problem that has been bothering me for some time now and I was hoping you could help me find an answer. I am a 21 year-old male who has always considered himself to be heterosexual. I have had successful relationships with women, both emotionally and physically, and dating has always been a high priority to me. From reading some of your advice columns, I suppose I'd be pegged as 'androgynous:' I tend to be more sensitive, sometimes to a fault, and take a strong...
Jul 10, 2000
I am 18 she is 17. . . . Please help me i have a major problem. For some reason i cannot trust my girlfriend. We have been together for a year and I have every reason in the world to be able to trust her but for some reson i cant. I am constantly worried if she is trying to impress other guys, she says she doesnt and i want to believe her so bad. How can i start to trust her. I just get to feeling so jealous because if she goes dancing she would wind up dancing with another guy. . . ....
Mar 26, 2000
I need some advice. I am in a very loving relationship with a wonderful man, and I hope in the future that we will be married. Sometimes my self-confidence is not 100% which in turn brings some insecurity into our relationship. I don't like hearing about his past relationships, and actually he rarely/never talks about other women, but, when I can guess that he's talking about something which includes him spending time with an ex in his past - it bothers me. He also has female friends...