I just picked up your book and within the first 30 pages read the clearest outline on the downward spiral of my marriage - and I have reads LOTS of marriage books!
We have only been married 1 1/2 years but are already in stage 3. We came from families with very different conflict styles - his avoided and mine fought it out. As soon as we hit our first conflict (on our honeymoon :-( he began to withdraw. Within a year he had begun to question why he had married me, erase all our good times, had an 'emotional' affair and now cannot even connect with any love for me.
He moved out last weekend and I am distraught. I am willing to learn your new approach to handling conflict, but my question is - how can we get there from here? What can I/we do to slow this down so that he might be able to reconnect w/ his love before it's too late?