Dear Dr. Love,
I have been reading your advice quite frequently lately, and although I am getting a better understanding of why a woman as strong as myself keeps ending up with men who don't treat me right, I am a little confused about my current relationship.
We have been together for 3 years and I have lost alot of my independence due to the fact that I am working on my 2nd Degree and financially Retsricted putting myself through school.
My boyfriend and I live together and this past year our bickering has turned to verbal abuse toward me. He throws things around, has splashed his drink in my face and even grabbed me and pushed me over. He hasn't actually hit me, but I have had bruises on my wrists and arms.
I know this is not right, but to the rest of the world he is sucessful, sweet and generous. He says it is all me and my attitude and if I wasn't so 'hard'and so outspoken he wouldn't get mad at me all the time.
I am a physically muscular woman, and that is his justification for being physical, because I am a fitness model not a 'dainty'model. Why does being strong have to be such a negative thing? I am sensitive and caring as well.
Am I foolish to stay because of my current financial situation? Is the grabbing just as bad as a man who would hit?
I really am not argumentative, I am certainly not perfect, but he snaps at the smallest things. Please help me unclutter my mind.