Dear Dr. Love,
My husband and I have been married for 9 months now. We have going through a lot of adjustments just as all newly wed couples do. However, it seems that we are just not stopping the constant arguing. Of course over the most rediculous things.
But it seems to almost always turn into an arguments filled with insults. Now, I have come to the point where I cannot stand to hear these painful insults anymore. These things he says to me, although he says he does not mean them, are not going away. I just keep thinking, does he really think this way of me. It makes me very depressed and I know it shows. I even feel like he isn't attracted to me and doesn't like me, because of the things he has said.
I have asked him to stop, and it isn't . His temper and anger seem to be getting worse. I absolutely know he loves me very much. I just don't know how to make it stop. Walking away doesn't help, fighting back doesn't help.
He does feel horrible when he has these outbursts of insults. And he makes sure I know how much he loves me, and takes back everything he says, but isn't there some truth to words we say in anger.
I know he is an absolutely wonderful person, we just need to get past this and move on. But how?