After 27 years of marriage I have realized that my wife has been having sex with others, at times over the years. . . .
She and I had a little too much to drink one night and she spilled out the info. . . . It was quite explicit and believable. . . . She even mentioned a name of someone I have been suspicious of in the past. . .
Next day, however she said she blacked out and didn't remember saying it. . . but the facts are still there, which she denies. . .
Even though facts seem to line up and looks a lot like she is lying. . . well, after many days of heart wrenching talks. . . we know we still love each other. . . but it is very difficult for me to move on. . . .
My question: even though I keep reliving this, should I continue to press her to fess up and then see if healing would happen. . . or should I just let it go and try to heal. She knows I don't really believe her explanations. . . .
Hurting a lot here, so thanks for helping me make sense of what's happened and advising me on how to go forward from here.