Hello, my name is Stephanie, and I am having a huge problem!
I need some answers please. I just found out that my wife made out with a guy in a bar in Germany 3 years ago. We weren't married at that time but we had been together for 5 years. We were going through some relationship issues during that time. We had been living together but decided to get our own places for a while.
We never broke off the relationship but we were seeing less of each other and we both were questioning the relationship. We were still in a committed relationaship.
About 3 months of living separately she visited Germany with some friends. Her story goes, she was pretty drunk and starting talking to some guy and ended up making out with him. They jumped around from bar to bar, making out here and there. She swears it didn't go any farther than that.
Soon after her return she moved in with me and we started to rebuild our relationship. About 1 year later we got engaged and a year after that we got married.
Now we've been married for almost 1 year and she told me about her Germany trip. Actually she only told me about it when I became suspicious because her friends tend to get hush hush when they bring up the Germany trip.
I feel hurt, angry, and confused but I also realize we were having trouble at that time. I'm not sure how to feel.
We're married now and I'm confused. Any words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated. BTW- she was absolutely hysterically crying when she told me and she seems extremely remorseful.
We have a strong relationship and a very happy marriage. Is it worth throwing away.
Thanks for listening.