I met a guy 4 yrs ago whilst traveling and he moved countries to be with me. We had a really great relationship; enjoyed being together and were very comfortable & talked a lot.
After 2 years of living together I had a miscarriage and he confessed after this that he had been unfaithful. We split & didn't see each other for 2 months after which time we started spending time together again.
He seemed to have changed or at least grown up a bit.
I got pregnant again and after about 6 weeks he wanted me to have an abortion. I didn't understand why but he confessed that he felt like a phony as he had cheated on me again. I split with him & decided to go it alone.
He is now really happy about my pregnancy and offers me support. He is working away from my hometown and spent a lot of money coming down for 1 night so he could come to my 20 week scan. He is desperate to be a family and although I have serious doubts about whether he will be loyal to me, I wonder whether I should give my baby a chance of having 2 parents together or stick to my original plan to go it alone.
I really don't know what to do. I love him and our relationship was so good apart from the infidelity & I believe he loves me and wants to make a go of things and be a happy family.
I think that being a parent can be life-changing and maybe things can be different but at the same time, he couldn't be faithful before so would why he be now?