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Guy Who is Madly in Love With His Best Friend

I'm currently living with a girl (as roommates) whom I've known for about 9 months now. I am madly in love with her and I've told her this. We last weekend kissed for the first time and then a lot more came to follow. I was under the impression that everything was going to be fine but then she said that she can't do this anymore because her heart isn't in it, and she's terrified of hurting me.

Well it's to late for the hurt she did that by not wanting to continue. Personally I think she just plain afraid to be in a healthy happy relationship. We are also, I should point out, best friends.

So what I need to know is what should I do. Keep trying to persue her or drop it and deal with the hurt?


It is very hurtful to be rejected by someone you care for. I understand your predicament, do you keep trying or walk away and begin the healing.


Before walking away, there is one thing you can do. You mentioned that you sense that your friend is afraid to be in a healthy relationship. Before leaving, it would be good to tell her what you told me.

You have nothing to lose and before letting her go and 'dealing with the hurt

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