Dear Dr Love, I really hope you pick my question cause I really do need help.
My wife and I have been married for almost 6 months now, and the only problem is that something that happened with her ex-boyfriend is ruining my view of her. This guy tried to force her to have sex, and in the process she got pregnant. Other than that my wife never had sex with anyone, not even this guy, this is like a first/one time thing.
The reason this is ruining my view/image of my wife is because of the thought of another guy's penis (excuse the explicit language) trying to go into my wife's vagina, even though this happened five months before I met her for the first time (she was 5 months pregnant when I met her). Now, the guy's penis never went in, I'm trusting my wife in this, in other words there was no penetration. No one intended for this happen, I'm aware of that, but how do I keep this from ruining our relationship?
I've brought it up to her a few times and she says to not let something as stupid like this ruin something beautiful, and I agree with her, that 's why I'm asking you for help. It makes her desperate and she's gone to extremes as to lie by saying she wanted to have sex with this guy but the she backed out at the last minute, when the real truth is that this guy froced her from start to finish (but nothing happened though, except for contact between the two 'parts').
But how do I keep this from spoiling the image of my wife, whom I think of as a saint otherwise. Thank you. Sincerely, Feeling like I'm doing something wrong.