Dear Dr. Love,

I have been courting a girl for about a year now. I met her from my friend. She was his ex. However, before I was able to ask her out, another of my friends did. I got over it but it happened again. She's gone out with two other guys since. Also, I have figured out that she talks to me when she doesn't have a boyfriend at a moment. I was wondering if there was anything I need or should do. Please help me!



You asked me what you need. You need to make a move instead of hanging back. The early bird gets the worm, as the saying goes. And, while you wait on the sidelines, other guys are asking this girl out right and left.

So, you need to find out why you hold yourself back: fear of rejection? low self-esteem? If you answered 'yes' to either of these possibilities, then read through my past column (1/21 'Never Had A Girlfriend ') in which I explain how to build self-esteem and overcome fear of rejection.

If you still feel frozen, contact me in my private counseling section, and I will help you move beyond these blocks.


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