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All Messed Up

You may think I'm rather'messed up' with these questions, but here it goes.

I am a 31 year old male and have been dating the same woman for over a year now. With very few exceptions, it may take me 30 minutes to an hour of intercourse before I reach an orgasm. And, I'm usually not as hard as my girlfriend believes that I should be. She's convinced that I am thinking to much - not letting go. Once we begin intercourse, I become harder. But, at times, it just goes away. I sometimes think that its because I used to masturbate a lot and still do from time to time. This is a long distance relationship, so she'helps' me over the phone sometimes.

I also have a hard time having an orgasm during oral sex (never have). She thinks that is for the same reason.

After the'first round', something strange happens. After only 5 or 10 minutes of rest, I can become hard again, usually harder than I was the first time. I can seem to have intercourse for hours and not reach orgasm. At times, I feel like I am having one and it is really intense, but I don't 'cum'. That one stumps me. I just don't get it. My girlfirend doesn't believe that I can have an orgasm and not cum. I'm not sure what to make of it all.

Thanks for any help,

All Messed Up

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